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The life cycle is full of joy and accomplishment--birth, first steps, school, graduations, work, marriage, raising a family, retirement. Or so we believe it should be. What happens when loss and grief interrupt the natural flow of life? When family, friends, or significant people in our lives die. Life's assumptions and expectations suddenly dissolve. What was meaningful yesterday, is a painful emptiness today. Life is turned upside down, unanchored, out of balance. Anger, denial, deep sadness, regret, guilt, even depression and anxiety can overwhelm and keep us stuck, with no relief in sight. Often, we feel like an outsider in our own homes, our workplaces, our religious congregations, among friends, neighbors, and just about anywhere. Each of us moves through the process of grief in our own way and in our own time. (Artwork by Gari Stephenson)
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The Other Side oF Sadness |
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 What the New Science of Bereavement Tells Us About Life After Loss By George A. Bonanno
New York Times book review: December 29, 2009by Abigail Zuger, M.D.Resilience, Not Misery, in Coping With Death
Poets ramble on at length about mortality, but it was an anonymous World War I lyricist who probably said it best: “The bells of hell go ting-a-ling-a-ling for you but not for me.” We can visualize other people’s deaths, but not so much our own (“For me the angels sing-a-ling-a-ling”).
Unfortunately, this standard psychic defense routinely backfires. We may aim all our fears outward, but then they boomerang back to fill us with terror. When our loved ones die, how will we manage without them? When the worst possible news hits — and it will — how will we survive? Click to read the rest of the article.
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Commissioned Songwriting for the Dying and Bereaved |
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by Anna Huckabee Tull
Most people don’t even know that it is possible to commission a song, but it is. I have custom-created songs for individuals for twelve years now, and while I have composed and recorded songs for more topics than you can imagine (new baby, wedding song, a song to psych someone up to clean their office, a song for a tribe someone visited in Ghana, Africa) I have found, over and over again, that the area I am most drawn to compose for has to do with end-of-life.
Sometimes people come to me because they are struggling with a life-threatening illness and they want to have a song created to help them find strength to fight. Other times, the fight has come to an end, and I am sought out to help create a Legacy Song, or to create a song that will help someone to say good-bye. Other times, I am working on projects for those who have been left behind—either honoring an anniversary of loss, or struggling to find peace with unfinished business once someone they love has died. And there are even times when the song I create is “in the voice of” one who has passed on, as a way of helping someone who is left behind to “hear” what there might be to hear, when we piece their story together and take the profound journey into what a song “from the other side” might say. Read more of this article from OpentoHope.com
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A Parent's Death Is Never Expected, Even When It Is |
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By Karen Spencer, Caring.com senior editor
Neither of my parents died the way I expected they would.
My mom went so quickly, just three weeks after a shocker cancer
diagnosis, that I'm still absorbing the loss. Now, less than two years
later, my dad has also died. Click to read the full article on Caring.com
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